Law of Attraction

Is Action Your Missing Piece?

action, results, goals, law of attractionIn my fifteen years as a business coach for the professionally creative and creative entrepreneurs, I’ve seen a lot of incredibly smart, very talented people struggle to bring their dreams to fruition.

When I first started – I believed that this was largely due to a lack of knowledge in business fundamentals and business skills. Which is why I created the Artists Marketing & Business Academy – to help you close that knowledge gap.

And while I still believe that’s part of the problem, I’ve come to the conclusion that you could have all the knowledge and skill training and still struggle.

Because there’s a piece missing – and that’s ACTION!

What is Action?

Much to my surprise – it turns out action is a pretty complex word with many different meanings. But here are the ones I think are most useful for this conversation:

action

1a: thing done, a deed
b: the accomplishment of a thing usually over a period of time, in stages, or with the possibility of repetition
c: behavior, conduct
d: initiative, enterprise

2: an act of will

Merriam-Webster.com

So, its what you do, right? Not what you say, not what you think, not what you wish, but what you actually DO.

You may remember a movie that came out several years ago — The Secret — which showed this guy sitting on his couch dreaming about a car – and then magically that car appears. I’ve always found that to be a misleading and possibly destructive portrayal of the Law of Attraction. Which led me to begin tweeting this:

The Law of Attraction without action is just the Law of Attr! Put the Action BACK!

It seems so simple – then why do we struggle so much with getting into action, staying in action, and choosing which actions to focus on?

What Blocks Action?

And why is it that some people seem to be completely stuck and stopped by these obstacles and others appear (at least from the outside) to be unstoppable?

You might think, “Well it’s just a difference in personality.”

Or, “It’s just easier for them than it is for me – they don’t have this problem with resistance or procrastination.”

Perhaps you even think, “I’m just … broken.”

Poppycock! I say!  Utter HOGWASH!

Okay – you might notice that this is a pet peeve of mine – you’re not broken. They’re not better than you. And it’s not some character flaw that you have no choice in!

What stops us is a bit different in each person.

  • It may look like procrastination.
  • It may look like analysis paralysis.
  • It may look like perfectionism.
  • It might feel like resistance, fear or overwhelm.

And it’s a useful exercise to examine what that dynamic is for you.

How do you know its time to stop? How do you know its the right time for some procrastination? (Wonder who’s tagged me on Facebook…) Understanding what your triggers are that begin this spiral into inertia or active resistance can help you disrupt that pattern. But understanding the pattern isn’t enough – you have to then have the tools to shift out of the pattern into something more productive.

What Allows or Even Motivates Action?

I believe that the primary difference between the folks that get stopped and the ones that seem to be unstoppable in their action is in their response to that stimulus. It’s not that they don’t get overwhelmed or experience fear. It’s not that they never question their choices or play the “Yeah, but…” game.

It’s that their response to that happening is to move forward into action.

You can think of it as simply rocking backwards and putting your weight in your heels. Or rocking forward and putting your weight on your toes. Try it – stand up and rock your weight backward just enough to sink into your heels. Then rock your weight forward to just slightly come up on your toes. Can you feel the difference? Can you feel the need, the desire, the irresistible urge to step forward when you rock forward?

So, when something seems to knock you off balance. When you feel stuck or stopped or resistant. When you are overwhelmed or stuck in perfectionism. Stand up and lean in.

 

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Do you struggle with procrastination?
Are you overwhelmed by the sheer amount of stuff to do – so much you are frozen by it?
Or are you really busy – but lack confidence that you’re doing the right things to create success?

Action is required to bring any goal to fruition.

Without action, inspiration and ambition are merely cool ideas.

Without action, your creativity stagnates, opportunities evaporate and despair gains fertile ground to root in.

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It seems so simple, right? Just start moving, start doing, right? But very often, because of the power of inertia, starting can seem overwhelmingly difficult. So, we just do the things that seem easiest, but we can call them action – like going through email or doing the dishes.

And while something is certainly better than nothing – without results, we lose momentum and fall back into inertia. Because we’re not doing the RIGHT things.

If you are serious about your goals, about your career/business, about the impact you intend to make in the world – you must take action. And not just any action – but the right actions that will invigorate your desire and manifest your dreams.

You may never know what results come of your actions, but if you do nothing, there will be no results.
–Mahatma Gandhi

In this free webinar, Debra Russell, certified business coach, speaker, and master practitioner in NLP and Hypnosis, will give you three pillars of successful action. With this guidance you can create sustainable and impactful action that will move you to your goals.

This webinar is completely free – and if you can’t make the live date – a replay will be made available to all those who register. Take action!

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Create Your Reality

Every morning, I like to start the day by creating a context for the day.  Some people think of these as affirmations, but that’s not quite what I mean.  I mean that I decide what my perspective is for the day.  What’s my paradigm?  How am I going to perceive my world, my circumstances, my environment?  What reality do I choose today?  My context gives meaning to the world.  It actually creates my experience.

A few days ago my friend, Moriah Diamond, asked for my favorite affirmation on facebook.  And she took all the affirmations that her friends shared with her and created this lovely video clip.  I just had to share it with you!

You’ll see mine about half way through.  As you can see, it’s more than just an affirmation.  It’s a way of interacting with the world.  “Everything that happens to me – means – I am wildly successful.”  How often do you interpret your world that way?  How do you think you’d feel if you could look at your cat’s hairball on the carpet and say to yourself, “Well, this is just more proof of how successful I am!” and really mean it.

That’s my context – what’s yours?

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Debra Recommends Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

“You can have all the knowledge and skills in the world, but if your “blueprint” isn’t set for success, you’re financially doomed.”
–T. Harv Eker

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I want to take this opportunity to introduce you to T. Harv Eker. He is a bestselling author and one of the world’s top trainers. His newest book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind™, is a publishing phenomenon, reaching #1 on the NY Times, Wall Street Journal and USA Today bestseller lists in its first week out!

In the book, Harv reveals 17 specific ways that RICH people think and act differently from POOR and MIDDLE-CLASS people.

The book is a brilliant yet quick read. I have been given access to a recording of a Teleseminar he hosted where he describes his foolproof methods for financial success. I’m sending you the link because the seminar really worked for me and I’d like to see you benefit too…

Simply put, Harv teaches people how to master the “inner game” of wealth in order to create outward success.

Harv seems to have a personal mission to help people realize their full potential by applying the principles he struggled to learn the hard way. These principles got him from debt to millionaire in only two and-a-half years, so I figure if he can do it, so can I. If you can grasp even a few of the principles of success he outlines, you, too, can achieve financial freedom.

One of the things I learned  was that the most powerful truths are simple and indestructible; you can use them to create a foundation upon which to build your own “rich life,” no matter how much or how little success you have experienced up until now. And a “rich life” is about more than just money…

You can transform your life from the inside out…

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Debra Recommends The Law of Attraction

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The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham

by Esther and Jerry Hicks

This book has had a profound affect on my experience of my world. Ironically enough, much of my growth around this area started with Seth Speaks which I read around the same time that Esther Hicks discovered it.  Having lived in Sedona I have a healthy mistrust of things woo-woo – but I’ve personally experienced things in my life that could only be explained by the Law of Attraction and implementing these concepts actively and intentionally has changed my life for the good.

Amazon’s review:

This book presents the powerful basics of the original Teachings of Abraham. Within these pages, you’ll learn how all things, wanted and unwanted, are brought to you by this most powerful law of the universe, the Law of Attraction. (that which is like unto itself is drawn). You’ve most likely heard the saying “Like attracts like,” “Birds of a feather flock together,” or “It is done unto you as you believe” (a belief is only a thought you keep thinking); and although the Law of Attraction has been alluded to by some of the greatest teachers in history, it has never before been explained in as clear and practical terms as in this latest book by New York Times best-selling authors, Esther and Jerry Hicks.

Learn here about the omnipresent Laws that govern this Universe and how to make them work to your advantage. The understanding that you’ll achieve by reading this book will take all the guesswork out of daily living. You’ll finally understand just about everything that’s happening in your own life as well as in the lives of those you’re interacting with. This book will help you to joyously be, do, or have anything that you desire!

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Debra Recommends Ask and It is Given – How to Use the Law of Attraction

Debra Russell recommends, law of attraction, success skills, belief in your successby Ester and Jerry Hicks

I often use exercises in this book for both my own work and in session with clients.  Here is the review from Amazon:

For almost 20 years Jerry and Esther Hicks have been presenting workshops, producing tapes and writing books to help people create the life they desire. And desire is no small word in this agenda. According to the teachings of “Abraham”–a collective name for the spiritual entities that are channeled through Esther–desire is a good and natural force within us. In fact, we are all here to fulfill our desires, according to Abraham. Yet the reason so much of us feel frustrated, is that we have difficulty knowing how to ask and receive whatever we want to be, do or have.

Although Jerry and Esther are listed as the authors, Ask and It Is Given is actually a collection of channeled messages from Abraham. Fans of Abraham and the Hicks may not find new information, but will probably be delighted to have an inspiring, updated book that speaks to the familiar conversation of attracting the life we want. Newcomers may also be intrigued by this excellent, in-depth discussion on how to change one’s life by matching the vibrational energy of one’s desires–taking the power of positive thinking to a whole new level.

Because this material is channeled, it often reads like The Power of Now or A Course in Miracles–not a fast food book to be devoured in one sitting. Rather, this is a book to be read in passages, with a soothing gestation period in between. It includes much advice on working with energy and emotions as well as specific chapters on increasing prosperity, reclaiming health, working with meditation, and clearing clutter for clarity. For those who are onboard with the “Laws of Attraction” and the “Art of Receiving” that Abraham speaks of, this could be one of those deliciously mysterious books that you can open to any page and it seems to offer the exact advice or insight you need right now.– Review by Gail Hudson

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Attitude of Gratitude or How to Handle the Hard Stuff

In general, when bad things happen or when the good stuff doesn’t happen fast enough, many people have one of two reactions – avoidance or blame.  And neither of those responses will make you feel better or create a different outcome in your future.

What will shift things for you is to consciously, intentionally choose your response. This is called response-ability (pun completely intended).  When something happens that is different than what you believe you want – the only proactive and empowering choice is to own it – this is my result.

Blame is NOT the Same as Responsibility

As long as you’re avoiding it (if I don’t look at it, maybe it will go away) or blaming someone or something for it (it’s the business, it’s the economy, it’s my childhood, it’s my parents, blah, blah, blah) or even if you’re blaming yourself (it’s all my fault for not doing/saying/thinking the right thing) – you are not taking responsibility and you are powerless.

So, I recommend looking at all circumstances with an attitude of gratitude.  Now, that may sound all new-agey woo-woo to you.  I mean, when you’re drowning under the flood of bad stuff, how the heck are you supposed to feel grateful, right?

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”  Viktor E. Frankl – Man’s Search for Meaning.

In Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl explores his horrible experiences in a Nazi Death-Camp.  If he could find meaning in the suffering of a Concentration Camp, don’t you think you might be able to look for a glimmer of light and gratitude in the midst of your own human drama?

There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for

When I was very ill with CFS, I practiced being grateful for the days I could stand long enough to brush my teeth.  And if you practice looking for what there is to be grateful for, that will expand – there will be more and more blessings in your life.  Because what we focus on expands.

But maybe that’s too much to start with.  What if you just start with curiosity?  What if you look at your circumstances, and ask – “Huh, isn’t that interesting – I wonder what this is about?  What’s the lesson here?  How do I grow, expand and develop from this place?”  And choose to respond with gratitude for the experience, the learning, the challenge that asks you to overcome – to be bigger than you’re used to.

All of our experiences, in each moment are our teachers, but only if we actually look for the learning.

By the way, if you’re doing this just so the bad feelings will go away and the bad stuff will stop happening – that’s another form of avoidance.  So, acceptance-of-what-is is an important piece of this puzzle.

There is no failure, only feedback

So, your job is to respond with the question – what’s the positive, constructive feedback in this experience?

So much of our experience is determined by what questions we ask about our situation.  So, let me suggest a few alternative questions:

Instead of – why does this always happen to me?  How about – What’s the payoff for me in creating this experience over and over?  What benefit am I getting?

Instead of – Why can’t I get what I want?  How about – What can I learn from what I am getting and how can I experiment with different responses to achieve different outcomes?

Instead of – What am I doing wrong?  How about – what am I doing right?  And how are my expectations creating this result?

Instead of – Why do I have to work so hard (or why is life so hard)?  How about – how am I creating my own suffering?  How could I think about these circumstances differently so I can move out of suffering and begin to enjoy this process?

Instead of – Why are there always these obstacles in front of me?  How about – what are some new and different (out-of-the-box) ways to get around these obstacles?  Who can help me with this?  What are the most outrageous possible solutions to this problem?

If your questions focus on the value, the learning, the opportunities and the joy of the process and the experience, your attitude will organically shift into gratitude.

So start asking good questions, empowering questions, humorous questions and questions focused on solutions.  And always, always, always, be looking for what the blessings are in each experience.

I am truly grateful that you take your precious time to read my words.

What do YOU stand for?

I was having dinner with a client and two new friends the other night.  And we were talking about values and Ben Franklin’s Virtues.

Senia, a positive psychology coach, chimed in that she had used her name to create an anagram for her values.  And then we were off!  So we all came up with a Values Anagram using our names! I like mine so much, that I had to share it with you!

  • D – Discipline
  • E – Exploration and Experimentation
  • B – Bravery
  • R – Responsibility
  • A – Attitude!

So tell me, what do you stand for?  As we all have our own unique meanings for words, over the next few posts, I’ll tell you what those words mean to me.

The Economy and Your Business

For the last few weeks, the conversation in almost every client session has involved how the economy may be, might be, could affect my client’s business or financial life. Is this a concern for you?

So, how do you create a prosperous living doing what you love in this (or any) economic climate?

There’s a saying floating around out there among the financial and personal growth Gurus – “I refuse to participate in the recession.” I agree with their point, but I think we can come up with an even better, more empowering mantra to keep you focused and clear in this time of challenge, uncertainty and fear.

Creating the Context for Your Prosperous Business

About 80% of the status of our economy is based on what is called “confidence” in economic terms – consumer confidence, investor confidence, stock market confidence.  The definition of a bull or bear market – is just that – confidence or the lack thereof.  (And more than 92% of all statistics are made up.)

In fact, a famous economist, John Maynard Keynes, asserted that the Great Depression of the 1930s was largely attributable to a collapse of public confidence, which led to dramatic declines in consumer and business spending.

So what does that really mean?  The health of our economy is based on our BELIEF about the health of our economy.  And what do we know about beliefs?  Well, they’re NOT REAL.

So, while most of the country is choosing to believe in the recession, does that belief serve you in your efforts to build a prosperous business?  I don’t think so!

Now, as I mentioned in my introduction, the Gurus are advising this mantra – I refuse to participate in the recession.  While I agree with their intention, I disagree with their choice of phrase.

First of all – when you look at that sentence, what is the word that keeps popping up?  Recession.  You have to remember how the brain works – it doesn’t get negative commands.  So, what are you telling it?  Recession, recession, recession!

My other problem with this phrase?  It’s reactionary.  It’s coming from a place of victim.  It’s, frankly, buying into the beliefs of the majority and then saying, “No.” to those beliefs.  What you resist persists.  You’re just feeding more energy into those beliefs.

So, I ask you – what do you intend to create?

What is the state of mind or belief that will create a sense of freedom, joy and lightness?  What is the context that will motivate you into action to build your prosperous business?

How about – “I am in charge of my own prosperity.”  Or “My success is a reflection of my beliefs, intentions and actions” Or “I trust in the abundant universe.”  Or “My every action is drawing me closer to my Vision (oh, and you want to very specific about that Vision!).

In other words – if you refuse to participate in the recession – what ARE you participating in? “I am creating my prosperity with each breath.”   Use one of these, or come up with a phrase that works for you.

How do you know it works for you?  Say it out loud and check how you feel!  If you feel better, if it’s easier to breath freely, if it puts a smile on your face and revs up your engine to get into action – well, then it works for you!

So, create a positively focused context, use it as your mantra and get busy creating your prosperity!

Motivation and Momentum-The Missing Keys to Successful Time Management

What is Motivation?

It is what drives your behavior.  And according to the experts in the sciences of neurology and behavior – 95% of what drives our behavior as human beings is unconscious!  As an actress and director, I studied motivation in my characters – what desires drive my character to act as she does and what conflicting desire drives her to sabotage herself?  That understanding allowed me to create believable characters .

But how can we possibly hope to influence our behavior consciously and intentionally in the real world?

Most people try harder and push themselves.  They beat themselves with self-recrimination, blame, and shame.  And it becomes like Sisyphus pushing his boulder up the hill, only to have it roll back down.  The hopelessness of your efforts can destroy any motivation or momentum you’ve managed to create.  And the amount of energy it takes will eventually burn you out.

From a Law of Attraction standpoint, it is the desire for what you want that both draws you forward (motivation) and draws your desires into your life (serendipity or luck).

It is much more energetically and ecologically sound to draw yourself forward by creating a powerful and inviting vision of what you desire, using your passion to create movement, than it is to push, manipulate and punish yourself into action.

And remember, the basic tenet of the Law of Attraction is that you get what you focus on.  If you are focused on how you are struggling and not doing what you “should” and the lack of what you desire – you are creating more of that lack..

Bottom line – focusing on a specific and juicy vision of what you desire to create will clear the obstacles, and increase your motivation and energy to take the actions that will manifest your vision.

Once you’re clear about what you want (your vision) and you are moving forward towards it,

How do you Maintain your Momentum?

You need to understand how and why you are stopping yourself.  And yes,

YOU are stopping YOU!

Momentum doesn’t come from magic fairy dust.  It comes from within you.

In my experience, the most common destroyer of momentum is fear and the desire to control your speed (and thereby reduce your feeling of fear).  So, notice what you are doing to slow yourself down.  Get wise to yourself.  Because once you are conscious about what you’re doing and what’s motivating that behavior – you have the power to choose differently.

So, once you understand what’s motivating you and you’re working on that, how do you create momentum?  It’s basic physics.  According to Newton’s Laws of Motion – a body that is still, through inertia will stay still.  A body in motion will tend to stay in motion.  So, to create momentum you must get into action.  Even one small baby step can create the shift in energy that will enable you to move solidly towards your goals.

And be willing to be uncomfortable.  That discomfort is evidence that you’re changing your reality – and isn’t that what you want?

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